Miss Cellaneous

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Sometimes there is a topic that is near and dear to me. Sometimes I just need to get something off my chest. Meet Miss Cellaneous. She is the one who I speak to when I write these. She never really fit into a category. But, she likes to hear me out on varying subjects. I hope you will join us…

One Thing That Kills Trust

"It's my fault."

Who do I trust? And why do I trust them?  There are a lot of things that play a role in whom I trust.

Integrity, consistency, and reliability are just a few.  I trust people who display these attributes – most of the time.  However, even the most honest, consistent and reliable person will lose my trust if they are arrogant.

Humility inspires trust.  Arrogance creates doubt.

Doubt kills trust. Continue Reading…

The Cornerstone of A Bad Attitude – Self

It Starts With Self

Some people are joy suckers.  They can enter any situation and suck the fun right out of the room.  It is a gift really.  A gift I appreciate as much as a good case of pink eye.  The unfortunate thing is, a bad attitude is just as contagious.

We can all have off days.  This is not what I am talking about.  I am talking about people who choose to have a bad attitude on a consistent basis.  A bad attitude is a choice.  I discussed that in:  Your Attitude Is A Choice:  Make A Different Choice.

But what is the cornerstone issue someone is dealing with?  What does that person need to change to become a joyful person versus a joy sucker?  They need less – self.

Originally posted in July 2013.

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Communication: To Speak or To Be Heard?

Goal:  To Speak or To Be Heard

If I just want to speak then no thought is needed.  I can just let her rip!  If I want to be heard, then I must pay attention to what words I say and how I present them.

I was reading an article on communication recently.  The article gave me some good tips for changing my style to meet the needs of my audience.

In the comments section, another reader felt that changing his style was a cop out.  He described himself as someone who did not hold back.  As a result, people saw him as too aggressive or even caustic.

I am taking two weeks off to be with my family.  I will be back with new blogs next week.

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3 Disciplines For Being Productive Versus Busy

Busy Bee

“Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates.  There is plenty of movement but you never know if it is going forward, backward or sideways.”

-H. Jackson Brown

Me:  “Hey Laura.  How are things going?”

Laura:  “It’s been a busy week Dave.  I’ve been running non-stop since Monday.”

I always want to surround myself with talented high-energy people.  These people energize me.  But, they can also wear me out.  Why?  Because many believe that doing a lot of STUFF makes a difference.

I am taking two weeks off with my family.  I will be reposting previous blogs during that time.  Have a blessed Christmas!

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3 Reasons People Don’t Change

Will You Change?

It had been almost five years since I had seen my West Point classmate.  I always enjoyed seeing him.  We have a common bond all academy graduates have.  But, after our first hour together, he said something that rocked my world.

“Dave, you haven’t changed a bit.”

I smiled and secretly hoped he was talking about my pant size.

I am taking two weeks off with to be with my family.  I will repost previous blogs during these two weeks.  Have a blessed Christmas!

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Two Ways I Beat Procrastination

Maybe later...

I’ve been meaning to write this blog for a while…. (See what I did there?)

I am a world-class procrastinator.  I have years of experience under my belt in putting off things I do not like doing.  I have also spent a lot of time trying find ways to stop procrastinating.

I have read books.  I have bought planners.  I have hired people who I ask to remind me to do things.  All of these have helped.  But, I now realize I will never be rid of this trait.  Procrastination will always be there.  Continue Reading…

How Calm People Stay Calm

Are You Really Calm?

He was more amped up then a Chihuahua after a can of Red Bull.  Here was my peer yelling at me because some people were sitting in the wrong area of a conference room during a sales meeting.

When I told him we could “make it work as is”, he said “Well I am glad you can be so flip about this Dave!”

Some people do not react well to stress.  In fact some people create their own stress and then don’t react to it well.  On the other hand, other people never seem flustered by the most stressful circumstances.  What do the calm have that the amped up Chihuahua does not?

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From Reactive To Proactive To Innovative

Where do you turn?

The truth is many people go through life in the reactive mode.  Others make the leap to proactive.  But, being proactive is not enough in today’s business world.  The special few move beyond proactivity and become innovative.

Where do most individuals and organization land?

  • 60% Reactive Mode = Run To It
  • 35% Proactive Mode = Plan For It
  • 5% Innovative Mode = Have Another Plan

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7 Habits Of A Highly Stagnant People

Am I Stagnant Or Moving?

“I am the same person I was last year.”  15 years ago, I realized that statement was a dubious accomplishment.  Twelve months had gone by, and I had little to show for it.  I hadn’t moved forward.  I was stagnant.

Characteristics of a Stagnant Pond:

  • It has nothing flowing in or out.
  • It becomes overgrown with algae.
  • It becomes poison.
  • It stinks.
  • It is abandoned.

I am taking 30 days off to work on other projects.  This was a popular post from 2012. Continue Reading…

3 Keys To Good Advice

Who Do I Listen To?

It was another day at work with Janet.  She was once again telling me about her problems with her boyfriend.  In my mind, she needed to ditch this loser.

I was confident he was lying to her, cheating on her, and was not the guy she should commit to any longer.  But, her friends were advising her differently.

Me:  “Who are these friends?”

Janet:  “My girlfriends from the gym who I hang out with after work.”

Me:  “Are any of them married?”

Janet:  “No, why?”

Me:  “Seek advice from people who are where you want to be.  Not from people who are where you are.”

I am taking 30 days off to work on other projects.  This was a popular post from 2012. Continue Reading…

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